Building a Mom Tribe: How to Find and Nurture Supportive Mom Friendships
Over the years, my tribe has shifted. Some friendships changed, others blossomed but one thing has always remained the same: the importance of being surrounded by other women who just get it.
I’ve always said that we’re not meant to walk this journey alone. But life gets busy. You tell yourself that you’ll make time to connect with other moms when things slow down. After the baby sleeps through the night, or once the kids start school, or maybe when work isn’t so demanding.
So today, I want to talk about something I believe deeply in: the power of community. Specifically, how to find your mom tribe and keep those connections strong. Because these relationships can transform your motherhood experience, and I want you to have that too.
Why You Need a Mom Tribe
Let’s start here. Why does having a mom tribe matter so much?
Motherhood is beautiful but it can also be incredibly lonely. You’re pouring into everyone else all day long, often with little left for yourself. And if you’re like many of us, you're doing it while juggling a full-time job, a household, and a dozen never-ending to-do lists.
Having a strong mom community gives you people who truly understand what that feels like. People you don’t have to explain everything to because they just know.
When you connect with other moms, you get something really powerful: validation.
You realize you’re not the only one who sometimes feels overwhelmed by bedtime routines or school drop-offs. You’re not the only one who has ever cried in the pantry while eating snacks in secret.
Being able to say out loud, “This is hard,” and having someone say, “I know” matters more than you think.
Your mom tribe also becomes a go-to source for practical help. From pediatrician recommendations and babysitter referrals to where to buy the best soccer cleats, the shared wisdom in these circles is gold.
How to Find Your Mom Tribe
It’s easy to feel like everyone else already has their circle figured out but building your own mom tribe is still possible, and it starts with a few intentional steps.
1. Start With What You Need
Before you go searching for your tribe, take a moment to ask yourself: What do I need right now?
Are you looking for emotional support? Do you want a mom friend to go on walks with or talk about sleep regressions? Are you hoping to meet women who share your faith, your culture, or even your fitness goals?
Sometimes we think we need “more friends” when really, we need the right ones.
2. Connect Where You Already Are
You don’t have to go far to find your tribe. Often, your mom tribe is sitting right next to you at soccer practice or waiting with you in the school pick-up line.
I’ll never forget when my daughter Jada played soccer and I started chatting with another mom on the sidelines. Turns out, she had the same fitness goals as me, and we ended up working out near the field during practice.
Now that my younger daughter Zara is on a dance competition team, I’ve naturally connected with other dance moms. And they’ve become my people. We’ve laughed, vented, celebrated, and cried together.
So don’t underestimate those little interactions. They might be the start of something big.
3. Explore Online Communities for Moms
The internet can be a powerful tool when used intentionally. There are so many amazing online communities for moms that offer space to connect, vent, learn, and grow.
I'm talking Facebook groups, mom forums, or even local mom meet-up apps where you can find your people, even if you’re home with a newborn or working odd hours.
These online communities for moms are especially helpful for working moms who may not have a lot of spare time. You can pop in during your lunch break, ask questions, and feel connected even when your day is packed.
Bonus tip: Be active. Don’t just scroll. Comment. Share. Post. The more you show up, the more your connections will grow.
4. Join Local Events or Workshops
Showing up might feel awkward at first, especially if you’re going solo, but every friendship starts with one brave “hello.”
You can also try joining interest-based groups like stroller walking clubs, book clubs, or faith-based mom circles. These kinds of spaces make it easier to connect because you already have something in common.
How to Nurture Your Mom Tribe
Once you’ve found your tribe, the next step is to nurture those relationships. Because life is busy, and friendships don’t thrive on autopilot.
Here’s what I’ve learned:
Be intentional. Whether it’s a quick check-in text, a voice note, or a monthly coffee date, you have to make time for your tribe, just like you do for anything else that matters.
Show up honestly. You don’t have to have it all together. Let them see the messy house, the unwashed hair, the real you. That’s where true connection lives.
Reciprocate. Support goes both ways. Sometimes you're the one crying on the phone, and sometimes you're the one sending the “You’ve got this” text. That balance builds strong, lasting connections.
Handle conflict with grace. No relationship is perfect. If something comes up, address it kindly and directly. You’re modeling for your kids what healthy friendships look like.
Even when life gets hectic, and it will, it’s worth fighting for these relationships. A trusted working mom community can carry you through the tough seasons and help you celebrate the good ones even more.
What If You Haven’t Found Your Tribe Yet?
If you’re feeling a little lost, wondering where your people are, I get it. Some seasons of motherhood feel quieter than others.
But please don’t lose hope. The kind of connection you're craving takes courage, but it also takes space to bloom. That’s why I created Put Your Cape Away, a space for women to feel less alone, more heard, and deeply supported.
I wouldn’t be the mom or woman I am today without my tribe. They’ve prayed with me, laughed with me, carried me, and reminded me that I’m not alone. And I want that for you too.
You may not have found your mom tribe yet… but we’d love to welcome you in. Take this simple step to join us today if you’re searching for your people! ❤️